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I am an empath, so I'm not really neurotypical, but I'm not on the spectrum either. I am married to a man with asperger's, and I've never been happier. I think your article is a good one, with a lot of good tips for everyone. Most people, when asked, say what they're looking for in a partner is honesty, kindness, someone who SHOWS that they love and appreciate their partner, not just a bunch of meaningless words.

Many autistic people I know have those things down pat. Everyone has idiosyncracies, the trick is finding someone whose idiosyncracies complement your own. I, for one, very much value my friendships with autistic people, and obviously, I adore my husband. The autistic community has welcomed me, and I think it's just wrong that the world at large finds it so difficult to return the favor. Overall pretty sound advice, but saying these guys "have nothing to offer" is kind of judgmental and probably will only make them defensive.

Everyone has something to offer, and chances are the guys you're referring to in the article already feel inadequate as it is. It's much more effective to encourage them to think of things they have to offer and what they can do to make the potential partner feel cared about. Then they can build on that. It's always more difficult to navigate relationships with Neurotypicals because the communication patterns are so different between the two people, so there's always the risk that they won't be able to deal with the extreme differences long-term, but I would reveal things a little bit at a time, but start early so they don't feel deceived when they do find out the full extent of it.

If the person is not compatible with you it's better to find out sooner than later as it's less painful to both people.

In either case it will be a relief to get the uncomfortableness out of the way. If this is somebody you want to be permanent you don't want to have to hide who you are around them or it could end badly when you get to the point that you can't keep it up any longer. The right partner will see the value in you enough to accept all of you, warts and all. At 55 I have had a number of relationships and they've ended for various different reasons, but I had to get to a place in my life that I was OK being alone, knowing realistically that there are no guarantees and that I would rather have no partner than be in a bad relationship.

I now feel that although it would be nice to have someone to share my life with, I'm willing to wait to find the right person, and if I don't then that's OK too. Some of the friends I've had who were married or living with somebody were constantly worrying about their spouse being offended or pissed off at them for really minor reasons and I have been in that situation in the past myself. When I really thought about it I was glad I didn't have that stress in my life anymore.

Sometimes the grass isn't really greener on the other side. It would have to be a net improvement to my current life in order to be worth it to me. Hey, thanks for the feedback you guys! I know the piece comes off harsh. In my experience though, people who see autism as their 1 sole defining trait seem emptier than people who don't.

I'm not saying you have to keep it a secret. But I don't think it's the most effective way to introduce ourselves if we want to relate to NTs. What are many of us proud of? For all those lonely Aspergers hearts across the UK! Find your soul mate" Be careful here. They have "sexy" profile pictures, and their interests are all very similar. Aspie Dating Worldwide Info: I guess i should have added, the ones listed are free sites. I have never used any of those websites.

I tried sending emails to em several times about it but I never heard back. I don't think dating sites for Aspeis are a good idea unless the guys are gay because of the high ratio of Aspie men to Aspie women I would recommend No Longer Lonely.

It's a pretty good site that's trying to grow. I had been a member of there for a couple years. It is a great site with a lot of potential but there is one major problem.

You could just text her saying "looking forward to next time together" or some such. LucyPurrs , Jul 6, Best of luck, and have fun! Bolletje , Jul 6, You must log in or sign up to reply here. Sep 11, at Gershom where are you from, people? AGXStarseed Just out of curiosity, does anyone know the song that plays on this video at 5: Sep 10, at 1: Nemo You don't have to be all the way through the dark to see the light.

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